I wanted Amelie to have an obituary in the local paper of my hometown. I come from a small little place in NorCal called Auburn. I always envisioned moving up there when my children were older, to be back in the peaceful quiet of country (I use that term loosely, it's only 30min from Sacramento and there's a major highway only 1 mile away) and spend our days having a more simple existence). Thus, (or "Thusly" as Hubbs likes to say, I keep telling him it's not an actual word), it seemed only fitting to give Amelita a shoutout to my Auburn-folk peeps.

It's short and sweet, like Lulu!

Amelie Fira Ives


Precious granddaughter of Auburn residents Tom and Marsha Dolkas, was carried by angels to heaven on July 1, 2017 after a two year battle with Pineoblastoma, a rare form of brain cancer. She was 6 1/2 years old. Surrounded by her father and mother, grandfather and grandmother, and two of her aunts, Laura and Peggy, we sang her songs, prayed, and embraced her while she peacefully let go of this life and returned to heaven.
Amelie was born in Virginia Beach, Virginia to Amy Dolkas Ives and Ben Ives while her daddy was stationed there. She spent may months of her life, while her father was on active duty, staying with her grandparents in Auburn which she called her "happy place." She was loved and adored by her pre-school teachers at Auburn Discovery Montessori and Alta Vista School, and she touched the lives of everyone who met her because of her sweetness and her spunky little personality.


During Amelie's illness, she would ask to hear "Auburn stories" about all the little adventures she had here: going "higher and higher" on the swings in the Rec Park, getting quesadillas from Taco Tree, feeding the Koi fish at Lake's Nursery, going to Tango for frozen yogurt, swimming in the family pond, and feeding the ducks both here and in San Diego where she lived the last two years of her life.
While she was in treatment at Rady Children's Hospital of San Diego, she showed her usual sense of humor--stealing the doctors' and nurses' glasses off their faces when she could reach them and playing hide and seek inside the covers of her bed. She loved Winnie-the-Pooh stories, Pingu, Snow White, and Ariel, dressing up like a mermaid whenever she could. She was a whiz at age four of finding little kids' videos on YouTube and watching them play with their toys while she was stuck in bed with tubes coming out of her head and her arms. Throughout it all, she would try to find humor in everything: she loved to tease us, and when asked for a kiss she would get a glint in her eye and say, "Maybe later" while she laughed. Toward the end-- when leaving the hospital for what seemed like the hundredth time--she said in a cheerful voice: " Well, that wasn't so bad! Good-bye, Hospital! See ya' tomorrow!"

Amelie is survived by her parents, Ben and Amy Ives; her little brother, Bravery Ives; her grandparents, Tom and Marsha Dolkas of Auburn and Charlene and Mike Ives of Mesa, Arizona, as well as her aunts, uncles and cousins: Ian Ives, Josie and Ben Parkhurst, (cousin James), PJ and Shelley (Dolkas) Lickl (cousins Sophie and Colton), Luke and Rachel Dolkas (cousins Apollo and Orion), Aaron and Laura (Dolkas) Schneir (cousins Athena and Ellie), Peggy Dolkas.
Our family would like to thank the Hospice team from Scripps in San Diego, all Amelie's caregivers, nurses, and doctors, her Auburn teachers--especially Mary Brown, Marie Kenny and Elise Haugh--as well as friends of the family, Shirley Paris, Sylvia Haverberg and Noelle Martin, who helped us all so much throughout this difficult journey.
If you knew Amelie or have lost a child yourself, we invite you to join us in a prayer of thanksgiving for Amelie's short but precious life at the New Auburn Cemetery on Saturday, September 23 at 9:15 a.m. led by Fr. Innocent of St. Theresa of Avila Parish. At the conclusion of the prayer, we will be placing silk flowers on all the children's graves in the New and Old Auburn Cemeteries, and afterwards, we will meet at Tango on Lincoln Way to share Amelie's favorite frozen chocolate yogurt."

Auburn Journal, Published 9/17/2017.